and these needs to be highlighted so that men know what a heavy burden they are carrying and that they must take it seriously.

because by assuming ppl know when in actual fact they dont is misleading and do not benefit the muslim family unit. so instead of focusing on women, we must also focus on men and their responsibilities.

i believe men are made to be protectors of women, not the master, which is what most of us wrongly believed.

Sesungguhnya, kita adalah roh, yang diberikan jasad sementara di Dunia, untuk menjalani ujian kehidupan bagi menentukan kedudukan di Akhirat.

Roh itu sangat kenal dengan Rabbnya, sebelum ia diberikan kenderaan serbaguna yang berkuasa tinggi bernama nafsu.

Roh tetap kenal Tuhannya, tetapi malangnya apabila dipengaruhi nafsu di Dunia, roh terhalang dari memberikan cahaya petunjuknya.

Ibarat pemandu di kenderaan off road yang tidak dapat melihat sekeliling, apabila tanah penuh menyeliputi cermin, kita dia seronok memandu ke sini sana.

Melainkan dia mempunyai wiper yang berkesan membersihkan cermin bagi melihat arah pacuannya dan malangnya pembersih roh tidak semudah membersih cermin kereta.

Salam. An interesting topic in discussion. I would like to add in some of my thoughts.

As Leokid has said, men needs to be aware of his reponsibilities towards his families. Some men do not know that if their spouses or their daughters reveal their aurah in public, they would also receive their share of the sin. They are the ones at fault if they don’t educate their children well.

The problem is that usually women are the ones that have the conscience to attend religious class rather than men. Men are supposed to be leaders. When the leader of the family lacks the religious knowledge, problem will creep in the family unit and social problems will occur. This is a hard issue to solve when the men don’t care about their knowledge and thinks that only love matters when they want to start a family.

Men also are recommended to pray in congregration for every fardhu prayers while women are not. Here is one aspect women are given rukhsah in but most men don’t know about this responsibility. Now you see how ignorant most men are. AstaghfiruLlah.

z.m., you said that they have quranic verse and hadiths to back them up. However, I beg to differ, these men don’t even have religious knowledge from the start. They don’t even care about “Qala RasuluLlah SAW (RasuluLlah SAW says)”. These ignorant people needs to be dealt with using education and proper enforcement.

However, I believe you have seen to many injustices on women such as syariah court cases where women are asked to come again at a another day because the husband is absent. Another example is when some religious people always talk about women needs to cover up while shutting up about the men. Here is an issue of males being chauvanists, not the religion itself. Islam respects women rights. Islam gives the right to the women to ask for divorce, protect themselves from religious violence. It is just that some men that are in charge of the religious authorities are doing their job just for the money and power, not for the religion itself.

Islam is easy and upholdsjustice. Do look at the 5 caliphs (Abu Bakr, Umar, Uthman, Ali and Umar Abdul Aziz) for an excellent example of how Islam is. They fear Allah for His punishment if they are Zalimun.

I agree with what Leokid said, try to be the best and not just to expect the best from others. WAllahualam.

Do try to read some of Dr Asri’s writing which covers paradigm change for the Muslim individual.

BUT when I come to think about it again, it iss everyone’s responsibilities to uphold the value in men and women as guided in the Quran and sunnah.

And everything starts with ourselves.

Kalau asyik nak cari salah orang lain..hm..ntahla..Instead of salahkan orang, yes u r right, jom kita sama2 tunjuk akhlak yg baik kat diorg atau sama2 nasihat.

It takes two to tango=)

just a humble opinion from Venus;)

Hamba yang banyak kerenah dan sangat berkira.

Sebab itu asas agama ialah mengajak manusia menjadi hamba. Bukan hamba lelaki atau hamba perempuan, tetapi hamba Allah, hamba TUHAN